I just received an anonymous comment which I will not publish because - well it was unproductive and mean. It compared our adoption of Zoe to getting a great real estate deal at someone else's expense....
However, I do want to address it....There are many factors that went into Zoe's adoption. Many of these I may NEVER discuss publicly because they are HER personal life and not mine. The things I discuss openly on this blog are only the things she has given me leave to discuss. I respect her privacy.
I think it is sad to go on someone's blog and read a tiny bit of a story and think you can judge whether that person has truly adopted a child in need or swindled someone out of "real estate." The truth is that I have let you in on a tiny bit of our hearts and you have assumed things you can't possibly know.
I have never told you what Zoe's life was like before the mud slides. Children who are not physically orphaned can come from many circumstances. I have not told you what her birth mother or birth father were like. Frankly you don't know if she really knew them at all. You don't know if she ate like a pig daily or starved for days on end. You don't know if she had a big fluffy bed or she slept on the ground with snakes. You don't know if she was hugged and cuddled daily or hit daily. You don't know if she had clothes or was naked. You don't know if she was safe and cared for or fended for herself. You know the final straw.... the mud slide... and you assume you now know the situation.
You didn't ask if we considered all this. You didn't ponder that I may have cried many nights as we went through the process for her Guatemala mother wondering what we could do. You don't know whether we requested permission to support her Guatemala mommy. You don't know whether or not we have contact with her Guatemala mommy. You don't know that Zoe is scared to even go visit Guatemala.
It just bothers me that you took something closest to my heart- adopting my children and reduced it to a real estate deal. This is my heart and soul.
This is NOT something we take lightly. My daughter knows she belongs with us. Her birth mother was protecting her in more ways than you will ever comprehend when she placed her in foster care. Giving Zoe up was heroic and absolutely right. I respect her immensely. There is nothing simple or pretty about it but it's love all around.
Please know that when you read this blog you see a tiny part of who we are. It's just a glimpse. We are not inviting your judgement. We are just sharing our hearts. If you leave a rude comment I will NOT publish it. PERIOD! This blog is about encouraging each other and lifting each other up. Feel free to ask honest questions. DO NOT feel free to compare my children with swindled real estate. I go all "mamma bear." I just can't help it.
OK. Now I feel better. :0) Nighty night all. Hugs! Angel